If I Could

I would take every other one

just so she could be free for a time

free from the pain that plagues her

free to do the things that make her happy

such a helpless feeling

not being able to take it all away

nothing to say or do

to make it better for her

she worried that I would grow tired

I'm not tired, I'm thankful

that I can offer my support and take care

she's working so hard, ridding her body of toxins

doing what she needs to do to be healthy

I'm so proud of her

so strong, so determined

I would take every other one

If only I could

No Worries

An old friend
and a glass of wine

A message from
my creator

5 uninterrupted moments
with my favorite girl

A job I love
with wages on which I can live

Firm ground
to stand on

Laughing about laser hair removal
and valley girl dating 101

Love

It's been a good day

It's gonna be a good life

No worries

Being Love

I kind of like the idea
of a clean slate every day

Empty and meaningless she says
no remains of the day before

No brooding or analyzing
no pondering or worrying

What on earth will I do?

It's freeing, I will say that
living in the moment, I'm learning

Cause all we have is now, today
and it's perfect

I'm reading about loving without fear
I'm so afraid to let people love me

In order to not fear love
we have to be love

I like the concept
I can be love, I'm good at that, I love love

I guess I have to be change also
in order not to fear it

Well, I'm being change alright
so many good things going on in my head

Possibilities, endless and infinite
colors, fragrances, lights and sounds

What I want
how I want to make it

I want to be love rich
not house poor

I'm being change
I'm being love
I'm being me
I'm cleaning the slate
starting each day new
today I feel love
today it feels good
for that I am thankful

very, very thankful

I told him

Tonight I told Joe

It seemed like the right time and I think it was

He took it well

He said, "I've pretty much known that my whole life"

I did it

and the world is still spinning on it's axis

Maggie Bean

My girl

her love is unconditional

I drag her from place to place

and it's still me she loves

I will find a place where we can be us

where she will bark to let me know someone is there

my cuddly little security system

my sweet spotted bundle of smiles

she makes me laugh

she's made me cry

she ran my first miles with me

she's made me so angry

she's made me so happy

she's a part of my soul

I knew her before her nose was black

I knew her before she had spots on her back

I will provide her home, I will provide her love, I will provide her care

she's my Maggie Bean

I'm Done

It has been so many years

years filled with trying and fake smiles

pretend hugs and empty promises

"we'll get together soon"

an end to that, starts today

I will not be a slave to manipulation

I will not fall prey to passive aggressive bullshit

I would rather have no one in my life

than deal with the gut wrenching antics

of the clown car clan

smoke and mirrors, it has been said before

bait and switch is more like it

"closed up" you say, I'm so tightly closed

I challenge you to deal with these people

and emerge unscathed, it won't happen

holidays, no more pretending

no more cooking all day and cleaning all night

while everyone smokes cigarettes on the back porch

and then talks about you the whole next day

no more, I'm done

you want goodbye

you got it

My Sweetest One Girl

You are so very special to me.

Someday soon, it will be me at your door.

A Smile and Kindness To Share

Sometimes when I feel down
and sorry for myself
God shows me something that I very much need to see

I know this girl, woman actually
I work with her
she is always smiling, always has a kind word

I got to chatting with her today in the lunch line
she went through a divorce about three years ago
her one bit of advice to me......

Don't sell out, Don't sell yourself short
She said, "I did and it's the biggest regret I have"

Wow, now there's a message, because I was about to do just that
I was about to roll over and play dead simply because I didn't want the fight

We continued to talk and I told her that I was seeing a counselor
and that the counselor had said to try not to let the whole
process affect my self confidence.....She said, "good luck with that"

The day progressed and through some incidental conversation
I learned that she had not only been divorced 3 years ago
but she had also lost her 6 month old baby girl to illness

This girl, gets herself up every day and comes to work
with a smile on her face and kindness to share
she lost her whole world, for crying out loud

You are so right God, I CAN get through this
and come out on the other side
with a smile and kindness to share

She Says I'm Amazing

I didn't feel amazing when she said it
so I asked her to clarify

To my astonishment she began
spouting off an objective list

I listened intently as tears
welled up in my eyes

I realized at that moment
that I am indeed an amazing woman

Satellites

I'm planning my commencement journey
a little bit at a time

But the fact that I'm planning and not ignoring
is a really huge step for me

Things are hard for me right now
I get lonely, in a house full of people

I do have periods of extreme happiness and joy
that interlace the tough times

But the poles are very very extreme
that's not easy for me today

It kind of reminds me of a contrast bath
being alternately dipped in freezing cold and then very hot water

It feels like I'm swimming in Jello (thanks Kelly)
that explains it all so well

I feel a little displaced no matter where I go
except for work I guess

I travel from place to place to try and have a life
but still be able to fulfill my commitments
(I'm not even sure I know what those are anymore)

I feel like there are bits and pieces of my life
all over the place

Little satellites hovering around
some having absolutely nothing to do with the other

I go to graduation,
she goes to Spring Hill

Georgia, Shaffer they don't have faces, because I can't go there
my kids don't yet know how wonderful she is

To my work friends, she can't have a personal face
I get that, I get it, but it still isn't easy

I love her mom, she doesn't know my dad
I need to create the possibility of her getting to know my dad

I need to create the possibility of her getting to know the boys
it's just hard to know when might be the right time

My existence with Ray
My dad and the boys
My mother, sister, grandparents
My friends
Her and her mom
Her friends
Her friends that I can't know
Places that I can't go
A new home awaits and I need to give up my consistent companion

Sometimes, late nights at 911
the satellites disappear for a time

Only to return
on the long ride home

So many satellites

My prayer, is that someday soon all my satellites will align
and ultimately merge into one peaceful, harmonious existence

My fear, is that they never will

Our Proudest Day

My Silly Boys

My High School Graduate

She's Not Coming

I don't know why that surprises me
I'm still serving my time
Her passive aggressive sentence
Handed down to me as I carried this very boy in my womb

I was five months pregnant with him
when she decided that my dad and I both would divorce her
it was all or nothing, I either loved her or loved my father
the choice wasn't difficult, she rendered herself hard to love

She pushed hard, kicked at times even
this pregnant child who's only anchor was her family
or so she thought

What a harsh reality
waking to find this anchor looped tightly around her neck
struggling to keep her head above water
drowning in a sea of bitterness, lies, hate and dishonor

It was a beautiful March day
the windows were open, the curtains blowing in the breeze
I was straightening the house,
tending to my first baby boy, anxiously awaiting the arrival of my second

The phone rang, I answered
the voice on the phone was familiar
but the loud, harsh tone I didn't recognize
I struggled to process the words, still not sure what I was hearing

"you're not the person I thought you were"
"self centered, uncaring, bitch"
"you don't give a damn about anyone but yourself"
"you think the whole world revolves around you"
"you don't appreciate anything that anybody does for you"

Funny how time puts a different spin on things,
I bet she never realized that she was describing
the person that she was to become

Congratulations Baby Boy, everyone who matters will be there

Finally......

I feel safe.....
What a most unlikely time.
God is good, I am so very grateful.

A Custom Made Mom

She changes her name
when she doesn't feel like being Barbara

She listens with kind ears
and a gentle soul

She looks through accepting eyes
searching for the very best in people

She loves like she's never been hurt
but she most certainly has

She fights back her own tears
as she shares her experiences
in an effort to guide a frightened soul

She has a beautiful smile
and an infectious laugh

She's strength, bravery, kindness, generosity,
determination and wisdom personified

She emanates warmth, softness, and comfort
giving the greatest, most sincere hugs

She gets up, goes out and tries
whether she feels like it or not

She represents every quality that I would choose
if I could create a custom made mom

Clearing the Hurdles of Communication

Since I was just a little girl
I have avoided confrontation and altercation

Granted I am MUCH better than I used to be
but I recently realized I still have a long way to go

I used to believe that I was a good communicator
I am, as long as it doesn't involve my needs or feelings

I can express needs and feelings if they don't create tension
it's the stress of causing discord that paralyzes me

Stifling my needs and feelings is no longer an option for me
my soul simply will not allow it anymore

The discomfort that I feel, trying to quell them
is far worse than just dealing with the issues at hand

I have recently found that not only does communication ease the discomfort
it actually peels back layers, exposes the potential for future growth
and creates a closer bond between two people

A crucial element in creating successful relationships
that I have been missing, all this time

Today and yesterday were not easy for me, for us, very difficult actually
but we cleared a really high hurdle this morning

And from what I understand now, about the importance of communication
these hurdles should get farther apart and much easier to clear

A Fun Night with Friends

Life Is Like a Box of Chocolates

Sometimes the crap gets old, bitter, hard to chew
and leaves a bad taste in your mouth

The Hardest Thing

is missing someone when they are standing right next to you and being lonely in a house full of people.